When I look it up, the summary I get from Amazon is:
> From New York Times bestselling author, feminist pioneer, and cultural icon bell hooks, an evergreen treatise on how patriarchy and toxic masculinity hurts us all.
Honestly I can't continue the conversation. You say the thing you want isn't being said. I say it is and point you towards it, but you're discrediting it based on a second hand account of a different book or a single paragraph summary. I've read all your points and I'm telling you man to man that this is your book. You can take it or leave it.
Then I heartily recommend you read the book I referenced.